Written By Mesha G., – Official Contributor of The Crowned Series
More recently, I’ve found myself wearing natural hairstyles. This summer, I went to Cabo and wore my favorite wig with 22 inches of Brazilian beautiful-ness and ruined it…I don’t know who I thought I was acting like I grew all that from my dome, I was jumping into the ocean and stuff (sidebar, wig was secured at no moment was she not attached to my head). After my summer fun, it was hard and incredibly stiff; I bought special shampoo to revive it and all that but she died on the scene. I spent a lot of money on that wig too, so I was low key devastated how it bad got. Then my devastation turned into protest, I told myself to not buy any more wigs.
I honestly thought it would be similar to one of those moments you swear you’re done drinking but go out still later that night kind of experience. But it hasn’t been. For a while, I did the good old wash and blow dry (and flat iron) that many of us are used to. The summer and natural hair that you’re trying to straighten also don’t match that well either, so while talking to one of my friends, she offered to do a flat twist for me.
Now at that time, I admired but knew nothing about true natural hairstyling. As I was watching YouTube learning how people DIY’d this themselves, I came across the LoC method — it felt like black girls learned the Krabby patty sauce recipe. A whole new world of information was unfolding right before me. I was amazed but immediately I felt some kind of way.
One of the reasons this experience brought me into my feelings is based off the strength that for so long, black women only had one standard of beauty that didn’t reflect our image. At a very young age, many black girls around my age and older has had an experience with Just for Me relaxer kits and we were so excited as children to chemically change our hair to be straight. That shit burned like something crazy but as children we thought that the temporary pain we endured relaxing our hair was worth it.
I’m pretty late on the natural bandwagon. It’s been years since I’ve had a relaxer, but many of my hairstyles were wigs, weaves, and my own hair just straighten so who would have ever known. And I wasn’t proud of my hair that I was born with… I always thought things like, a few more inches in length or as soon as my dry time decrease, I’ll do something different…literally making up excuses to myself about my natural crown of glory.
Learning about natural hair also served as a catalyst for the nerd in me to truly learn from multiple perspectives about black women and their hair and the struggle it has been here in America. Sometime soon, I’ll have to share all I learned, giving you all another reason to know how black women are amazing. Versatility isn’t even the best part of black women and their hair. Also, on the note of versatility, don’t be alarmed of a wig fall back in my good graces — it does not take away any of the admiration I’ve gained over the summer.
My final thought (for now) flat twist > two strand twist.
– Mesha G., Official Contributor of The Crowned Series